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Caring for Parent With Dementia at Home: How to Know When It’s No Longer Feasible

Dementia is a condition that can start slowly. At the onset it is often mistakenly identified as “just getting older,” but as it progresses slowly, they wonder if it’s something much more than natural aging. And caring for parent with dementia at home comes into question and presents many challenges. The FCA has provided a nice guide to understanding dementia behaviors and will definitely help you determine if your parent is beginning to show signs.

daughter assisting and caring for parent with dementia at homeAs the condition starts to take over the person’s mind, caring for a dementia patient may not longer be feasible. There are many reasons for this to be the case, several of which we address below.

Safety Concerns when Caring for a Dementia Patient

Safety is the primary concern when caring fora parent with dementia at home. Often memory lapses become the source of safety concerns. They may forget to turn off a stove. Or might light a candle and leave it unattended. They may even leave the house and walk aimlessly around the neighborhood. And without supervision or assistance, this can put your loved one at risk.

Unless you’re able to supervise your loved ones all day long, when this stage of dementia happens, it’s best to seek alternative options for care services.

Medication Compliance

Medications are an important consideration, especially when people are getting older. Again, memory lapses can be the cause of problems. Forgetting to take medication or taking it twice can lead to illness and more severe consequences – stroke, heart attack, etc.

Caring for parent with dementia at home means monitoring what medications need to be taken and when.And if caring for a dementia patient is not within your abilities or you are not able to make that large commitment, then it’s best not to try caring for your own parent with dementia at home. It’s better to have them in a living situation with a trained professional that will help them with their prescriptions.

Unkempt Appearance and Home

applying makeup is caring for parent with dementia at home

While this may not appear as much of as threat as the reasons above, it is still highly important. When a parent with dementia at home is unable to keep themselves and their environment clean, issues can occur that can put their health at risk. Good hygiene and maintaining a clean home may be even more important that in past as the parent grows older. As appearance begin to decline it is often a sign that additional help may be necessary.

While this may not be needed on a daily basis, if someone can visit your loved one to help them with daily living skills every other day or at least three times a week, that would be best. If this is not possible, assisted living communities may be a great option.

When Caring for a Parent with Dementia at Home is no longer possible

One of the most common feelings people have caring for a dementia patient is guilt. When it comes seeking elderly care, it’s also common to feel as though you are letting them down, or giving up on them. This guilt is not warranted, though.

caring for a dementia patient means involving her in normal activitiesYou have been caring for your parent with dementia at home up to this point, and now, it’s no longer feasible for you to continue. This does not make you a bad person or inadequate. It simply means your loved one’s needs have exceeded your ability to help him/her enough. Often, because of feelings of guilt, people try to care for parents with dementia at home long beyond what they really can handle. You actually could be doing the wrong thing continuing to try and then putting your older loved one at increased risk, or at the very least providing a less compatible environment that what they really need.

Making the Decision to Seek Elder Care

Reach out to ElderCare Connections for help with this situation. We help you find the right type of support for your loved one’s needs. Whether you need senior placement services or elderly home care our specialists will help you determine the perfect fit for your loved one. We work with people every single day and help them in many ways for no cost at all.

You have nothing to lose so just call us and ask for information. We know it’s a hard time, and we want to make it easier for you. Reach out to us by completing our contact us form, or you can reach us at (513) 685-8998.

How to Help Other Family Members See the Need for Assisted Living Care

Your loved one is getting older, and he’s not the same as he was last year. You’re concerned for his safety and well being. As much as you want to take on the care responsibilities he needs now in life, it’s just not feasible. You know that assisted living care is what he needs, but how do you get other family members including your older loved ones to agree?

Let Them Know About Assisted Living Care

managed care with a girl taking care of an old woman at assisted living homes imageMost people do not know what assisted living care truly means. They may have thoughts about it, but those thoughts are not accurate. If they truly understood it they may be more open to the idea.

Explain to your family members that assisted living is a service, which provides individualized assistance to people. This means that people only receive the help they need.

When an assessment determines the need, then the “care service” will start. As the person grows older and needs additional support, the service will expand to include it.

Assisted living care is the most basic form of assistance for older individuals. People still live independently, but they have someone who is available to tend to their needs so they can continue to live safely. And as needed will have access to good health care.

Tackling the Money Issue

assisted living care builds confidence in an old persons imageBesides not knowing what it is, most people disregard the service because of the expense. It does cost money to have someone care for an older individual, but this money is used in a way that saves others a lot of time, energy, and well-being.

Care giving is a challenging work. And it’s work that doesn’t pay when you’re doing it for a loved one. The work can be physically, mentally, and emotionally exhaustive. And with time, this can be highly detrimental to a person’s physical and emotion well being, which could end up costing more money than the cost of assisted living care. The stress of caring for an older loved one can lead to illnesses that need to be treated by a doctor, so then you are incurring extra medical bills. If the illnesses are bad enough, the caretaker must take time off work. Sometimes, caretakers try to cope with the stress of caring for someone by eating more, drinking more alcohol, or smoking more cigarettes, which then increases spending while negatively effecting a person’s health.

The money spent on assisted living is well worth it in the short term and long term. Family members who do not understand often do not know the perils of care giving and should take time to help to understand or read our blog to know what it truly takes to care for someone.

Explaining all of this to your family members as well as older loved ones can help put the expense in perspective.

Reach Out for Additional Help for Assisted Living Care

Eldercare Connections can help you with the process of getting your family comfortable with the idea of assisted living and the care you need. We can provide additional information that will make sense to your family, and possibly open their eyes and minds to the great need for these services. Please reach out to us now by calling 513-685-8998 or contact us.